Virginia parents like you want to make the upcoming divorce as easy as possible on your kids. Of course, this starts at the basics: how you first tell them divorce is in the future.
To ensure your child experiences this news in the least harmful way, you can employ knowledge and tactics to soften the blow. This can help them adapt and accept the reality of divorce a little easier.
Individuality influences reactions
Psychology Today discusses ways to break news of divorce to your children. They focus on the fact that every child is different. Age has an impact on how a child will view news of divorce. On top of that, personality and maturity level will influence how your kid reacts, too.
You can take tips you hear from friends who have gone through divorce or child psychology experts. But at the end of the day, you are the one who knows your child best. You should gauge the methods you learn against how you think they will react and choose your method from there.
Tried and true tips
Some things work well no matter how your child is, though. For example, many children will feel comforted if you and your co-parent work together in relative harmony. This means putting aside your gripes and fights to speak as a unit rather than as individuals. Related, do not argue in front of your child or have discussions with them directly after a fight. Your child will likely pick up on the tension and may blame themselves.
After establishing the divorce, you can then work on letting your child know other changes that will come up soon. This includes living arrangement changes, custody and visitation schedules and more.